James 4:1-3… 1 What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? 2 You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel.
James addresses the reasons for quarrels and conflicts. He said the reason is the pleasures we seek and lust for the things we do not have. The result is a war among one another to obtain what you selfishly want; we are so aggressive we commit murder which Jesus defined as hating your neighbor.
2d You do not have because you do not ask. 3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures.
V.2d-3 gives two reasons our prayers are not answered.  We do not ask God because we are focused on self;  we ask and do not receive because we ask with wrong motives. Consider your own prayer life–what percentage of your prayers is focused on your own wants and desires instead of the will of God revealed in His Word?
In order to avoid my prayers being concentrated on self, I have adopted the acronym ACTS to guide my prayer life. Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving and Supplication [asking to meet the needs of others and self] To instill discipline I use the prayers from this list every day. Summary: 31 Days of Prayer Using ACTS format.
Live Jesus-centered with a disciplined prayer life.