A comparison of “The 4 G’s of Peacemaking and The 12 Responses to Conflict” A reveal only 3 responses available to the disciple walking in the Spirit and keeping the New Testament commandments. B Obviously no one walking in the Spirit can respond with Peace-faking or Peace-breaking responses. Note that the most severe responses are suicide and murder. [See link for Homicide-Suicide data-click here. In 2014 in USA: 16,108 Homicides & 41,143 Suicides. 2.6 Suicides for each Homicide. Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death for those between the ages of 15 and 34 in the United States.]
Assisted Peace-making Responses require bringing 3rd parties into the conflict and occasionally may be required A. The Peace-making response “Accountability” is when it is necessary to involve church leaders in resolving conflicts as described in Matthew 18:15-20.
This leaves the 3 Personal Peacemaking responses.
- Overlook an offense – This is for the relatively minor offenses that can be overlooked and forgiven. The wise person will overlook these offenses as described in Proverbs 19:11 A man’s discretion makes him slow to anger, And it is his glory to overlook a transgression. We must be careful to forgive and forget or these offenses will build to a boiling point of anger.
- Reconciliation – If an offense is too serious to overlook or has damaged the relationship, we need to resolve personal or relational issues by applying the 4 G’s of Peacemaking. A If “your brother has something against you. . . go and be reconciled” [Matthew 5:23-24]. Paul and Barnabas used this response in Acts 15:36-41. God was glorified as 2 teams of missionaries departed to proclaim the Gospel.
- Negotiation – Even if we successfully resolve relational issues, we may still need to work through material issues related to money, property, or other rights. This should be done through a cooperative bargaining process in which the parties seek to reach a settlement that satisfies the legitimate needs of each side. “ 4 do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.5 Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,…” [Philippines 2:4-8].
Resolve in the New Year to use the overlook or reconciliation response to conflict.
Henry Luke 1/3/2018 revised 2/24/2018
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